Random Thoughts of a Young WOMAN: We Find You Guys Handsome, Even When You're Not
Benedict Cumberbatch is not handsome. He's charming, charismatic, always dapper and phenominally talented, but he's not handsome. Before someone points out that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, let me clarify some things. Yes, I like looking at Benedict Cumberbatch. Yes, he qualifies for my 'dream guy' list. But if you look with closely, with only your eyes, you'll see that he doesn't fit into the narrow definition of conventional beauty. Neither does Shah Rukh Khan (That nose? Those eyebrows?) Neither do a lot of men in the entertainment industry who constantly feature on "Sexiest Men' lists. Their beauty doesn't come solely from their physical features. In a lot of cases, their facial features are irrelevant. What makes them handsome are the things that come from within. It's about how they present and carry themselves, their charismatic mannerisms, the subtle imperfections that make them who they are.
It's not the same for women. Most women who are considered beautiful by popular media (and society) are physically and facially gorgeous. For them it is about having the longest legs and the straightest nose and the fullest lips and the slimmest waist and blah blah blah. It is! Yeah, we say that Barbara Streisand is beautiful, but let's be honest, we don't mean it the way we mean it when we say Aishwarya Rai is beautiful. And have you looked at Adele? She is absolutely jaw-droppingly good-looking when you really look at her, but most of us can't get past her weight.
So jest so we're clear, no matter how many times people argue that these days men are objectified just as much as women are, it's clear that we take into condsideration personality attributes that can never really be objectified into consideration. It's different with women. People look only at the packaging when judging a woman for her beauty. I concede to the fact that it's getting better with time, but it's a slow change. I agree that not everything is sexism, and this is just a result of ages and ages of mental conditioning, but let's start looking for magnetic charisma when compiling the next completely unnecessary beauty list, shall we?
It's not the same for women. Most women who are considered beautiful by popular media (and society) are physically and facially gorgeous. For them it is about having the longest legs and the straightest nose and the fullest lips and the slimmest waist and blah blah blah. It is! Yeah, we say that Barbara Streisand is beautiful, but let's be honest, we don't mean it the way we mean it when we say Aishwarya Rai is beautiful. And have you looked at Adele? She is absolutely jaw-droppingly good-looking when you really look at her, but most of us can't get past her weight.
So jest so we're clear, no matter how many times people argue that these days men are objectified just as much as women are, it's clear that we take into condsideration personality attributes that can never really be objectified into consideration. It's different with women. People look only at the packaging when judging a woman for her beauty. I concede to the fact that it's getting better with time, but it's a slow change. I agree that not everything is sexism, and this is just a result of ages and ages of mental conditioning, but let's start looking for magnetic charisma when compiling the next completely unnecessary beauty list, shall we?
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